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MR. RAY OXENDINE

MR. RAY OXENDINE

Mr. Ray Oxendine of Maxton, passed peacefully with his family by his side on June 7, 2022, at the age of 85.  He was born in Pembroke on March 22, 1937.  Born to Thomas Hilliard and Georgia Rae Maynor Oxendine, Ray grew up a proud member of the Lumbee Tribe in a small farming community.  Many of the core values that Ray Oxendine championed came from his upbringing in Pembroke, NC.  He committed himself to a lifetime of service: God, Country, Family, and Community.

Mr. Ray joined the U.S. Army following high school graduation, where he proudly served deploying to Germany for two years and earning his Army paratrooper wings. After his service, he went on to Catawba College where he captained both the football and baseball teams, graduating in 1962.  He was the head coach of the Catawba baseball team where he was the Carolinas Conference baseball coach of the year twice and contributed to his eventual induction into the Catawba College Sports Hall of Fame and the North Carolina High School Athletic Association Hall of Fame.

He worked in NC public schools for over 30 years as a teacher and administrator in many local high schools.  His leadership and charisma as a principal, teacher, and coach positively impacted generations of students with his infamous “neck squeeze” across NC and beyond. He was a member of First Presbyterian Church, Maxton, where he taught Sunday School for many years.  Post retirement, Ray was a volunteer for the Red Cross deploying to assist during disaster relief and recovery efforts, including Hurricanes Katrina and Irene.  He also traveled extensively visiting his family and watching his grandchildren participate in sporting events around the country and overseas.

Mr. Ray is survived by his longtime companion, Lynne Morgan; his daughters, Beth (Chris) Snyder of Mandeville, Louisiana, Susan (Dean) Valentine of Los Angeles, California, 8 grandchildren and four great-grandchildren, all of whom he was immensely proud. He was the brother of Louis Oxendine, Magnolia Lowry, Ruth Hurnevich, and the late Thomas Oxendine, Robert Oxendine, Joseph Oxendine, and Earl Hughes Oxendine.

The family will receive friends from 6 to 8 p.m. on Saturday June 11, 2022 at Pembroke Gospel Chapel, 406 N. Jones St, Pembroke, NC. The funeral service will be on Sunday, June 12, 2022, at 2 p.m. First Presbyterian Church, 303 N. Patterson St, Maxton, NC followed by the burial service at Sandcutt Cemetery, Oxendine Road, Pembroke, NC.

Mrs. Beth and Mrs. Susan request that in lieu of flowers donations be made to Catawba College for the Oxendine Family area at Newman Park, the baseball stadium where both Ray and his brother Joe played baseball at Catawba College.  Any donation is appreciated as we look to keep the legacy, the teachings, the enduring memory of Ray Oxendine alive, and promoting continued connection to the Native American community as well as diverse athletes around the world.

Donations can be made via the following link at www.catawba.edu/rayoxendine or alternatively by check via mail to Catawba College, 2400 West Innes Street Salisbury, NC 28144 with “Ray Oxendine” written in the memo line.

6 Comments

  • Vicki Posted June 9, 2022 8:19 pm

    On behalf of the RC Register of Deeds Staff and I..
    Condolences to the family.

  • Beverly Harris Posted June 10, 2022 2:39 am

    We Beverly Harris, Maudestine Harris and Hubert LeRoy Harris, are former students of East Montgomery High School, Biscoe, NC, where Mr.Oxendine was the new Principal in 1977.
    He was a magnificent person to get to know and if he liked you, he liked everybody! He was fun to be around and he gave us our school buses and routes. He was an awesome principal too. We tried to keep up with him after we graduated in 1977, 1978 and 1979. The Montgomery County School System lost a good one when he left. He ran East Montgomery like a well oiled machine. I was shocked to hear of his passing, but God knows best. We would like to send our condolences to his family and will keep the family in our thoughts and prayers.
    Beverly Harris, Mt. Gilead, NC, Maudestine Harris-Chambers, Monroe, NC and Leroy Harris, Mt. Gilead, NC

  • Beverly Harris Posted June 10, 2022 2:42 am

    We Beverly Harris, Maudestine Harris and Hubert LeRoy Harris, are former students of East Montgomery High School, Biscoe, NC, where Mr.Oxendine was the new Principal in 1977.
    He was a magnificent person to get to know and if he liked you, he liked everybody! He was fun to be around and he gave us our school buses and routes. He was an awesome principal too. We tried to keep up with him after we graduated in 1977, 1978 and 1979. The Montgomery County School System lost a good one when he left. He ran East Montgomery like a well oiled machine. I was shocked to hear of his passing, but God knows best. We would like to send our condolences to his family and will keep the family in our thoughts and prayers. We are now residents of Mt. Gilead, NC and Monroe, NC respectively.

  • Nat Tolar Posted June 10, 2022 12:14 pm

    A great loss of a man who never met a stranger and always helped those in any way needed. We shared many wonderful times at UNCP football games where I learned ALL who knew him loved and respected this man. I am honored to have known him and may his memories bring a smile to your face and love in your hearts each and every day.

  • Sheriff Burnis Wilkins Posted June 10, 2022 3:01 pm

    I would like to express my most sincere condolences during this most difficult time and may God give the family of Ray Oxendine the comfort and peace to help ease the pain of your loss.

  • BARBARA INGRAM Posted June 12, 2022 1:16 pm

    I was a student at East Montgomery High School and I had the honor of being in the presence of Mr. Oxendine. He had such stature and a presence that was not boasted, but witnessed.

    In retrospect, men like him were few. Mr. Oxendine didn’t get to see or know the real impact he made in my life, but I hope he’d have given that smile of his, approving. I believe anyone that knew him was indeed fortunate. He spoke to me with stern but sincere integrity and humility, even when I had done something silly at school.

    My love goes out to you, Beth and Susan and all who knew and loved Mr. Oxendine. What a great influencer he was!! I didn’t always see it at the time, but I’m truly grateful that I had a leader like Mr. Oxendine in my youth.

    With love and honor to the blessed Oxendine family.

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